…………………………………….And What Don’t I Need?
Oh boy its exciting having a new baby and us in our position, we are expecting twins or triplets.. YAY! Or maybe not… A single baby requires a lot of stuff…. so three are going to need three times that… hmmm ….. Well they will in diapers of course, but not so much for other things…..
There may be things in this list that you feel are not important, and I have researched endlessly to see what is trending and what isnt. Ive read that a changing station isnt so important, well it might not be for a singleton, but with twins or triplets or more, it is one of the most important pieces of equipment to save your back if nothing else. I made mistakes, there were things I got, wasting money, things I wanted but really didn’t need. So this is for you to decide what you want, knowing my mistakes !
So Ive listed the essentials below, some are obvious, some not so much. Then I have listed stuff that you might want to get for timesaving/comfort…. and then stuff you can really manage without…. No need to go overboard and certainly you don’t need 3 of everything (or 2 for twins!)
Cribs – I started with cribs in the Nursery because it was the easiest and cheapest option at the beginning.. Having to afford 3 cots all in one go was a bit too daunting and I was thinking of my back, bending over the cots to put them in.. I thought that would be too much, especially as I had had a c-section.
This one from John Lewis, acts as a bassinet as well… love versatility!! John Lewis
Linens are necessary, of course. I found that fitted flannelette bottom sheets were excellent, very soft on baby skin… But… One thing I did do was put folded muslin cloths at the head end, this saved the sheet from little spit ups without causing huge washing mountains.
I went on to get three cotbeds, I said I liked versatility! So they turned into bed once we got through the baby stage and really they were awesome ! They came with a separate bed end so the cot end could be changed up.
Diapers/Nappies – I would respect anyone who uses reusable diapers for twins and triplets. I didnt and whilst I regret it, thats in hindsight, especially when the dust has settled and I reflect back…. but oooh how would I have coped with all that washing? The next best thing are eco diapers – Eco By Naty ($57 for 104) or if you are looking for regular diapers – Pampers (120 for $38)
Baby Bottom Balm – A barrier cream with natural shea butter and beeswax to create a waterproof barrier. Check that they
contain no e numbers or preservatives, these are uneccesary. If you can’t find a good balm, try this one from Wild Soapery.com
Baby Wipes – Baby wipes are a necessity, got to get those botties clean… But have you thought of alternatives to the commercial wipes? Baby wipes say they are disposable, but theyre not, they’re almost as nonbiodegradable as diapers. But what about cloth wipes? Maybe cloth diapers was a step too far with all the washing required, but cloth wipes? Throw them in a bucket when used, to soak, then in the wash as normal. I have a whole blog on cloth wipes and how to do them… take a look and see if its for you? Cloth Wipes
An obvious one, but my suggestion here is not to have too many things of one size. Whilst twins and triplets can be much smaller than a single baby, they will grow very quickly and by 6 weeks could well be out of the newborn size. I favoured baby grows at night. Easy and comfortable for baby skin and even if they moved the covers off, they would still be warm. For daytime in the initial stages, I dressed my trio in vests with tights/leggings with feet. They progressed onto little dresses and knickers (well for the girls anyway!)
Changing Station including Bathtub.
Ive got to disagree …… I had one very similar to this one with a bathtub under the changer. I used it all the time! It saved having to kneel on the floor to change them, no backache as the station was the right height, their cots were handy for me to pop them into when they were done, before moving to the next one. I could fill the bath in the changer, whilst each baby was safely playing in their cots. Bath one at a time without having to leave the room.
The bath had a little drain with a tube to empty the bathwater into the sink/bucket. So for me this was a definite! It had pockets around the front for sponges and soap just like this one. I can see that for a single parent maybe this is a an excessive piece of furniture but it helped me do bath time myself. I did have a single changing mat downstairs on the dining room table with a changing box holding diapers and cream. During the day, for a quick change that made sense to me.
I had an awesome night light for when my trio went to sleep. It shone stars on the ceiling and they moved around, it was comforting for them, a little star show, not too dark. This one from John Lewis is so like the one I had, I loved it !
Amazon do a similar one!
I had a whole basket full of burp cloths/muslins…. you can never have enough ! I used them at the head of the cribs for any spit ups in the night and of course when they were being fed… As they got older, they were used in the kitchen for all sorts of purposes. Bamboo is a new material that is much cheaper than cotton and uses way less water to process than cotton does.
Even in the stroller, I had burp cloths/muslin just in case. Made it much easier to keep things clean.
Baby Bottles/ Breast Pumps/ Bottle Warmer/ Bottle Steriliser
I couldn’t breastfeed… My triplets were very premature and with the stress ad worry, I ran out before they were able to feed. They had it through nasogastric tubes when they were in NICU so I didn’t feel too bad… so I used Avent baby bottles, steam and microwave sterilisers, and bottle warmer.. I was fortunate as I got a huge box of goodies from Avent – I wrote to them about my triplets and they sent me everything I needed, try it yourself !
Breastfeeding bras, breast pads – all definitely necessary… There are also some breast cups that can be worn if you leak, they catch the breast milk so not soaking your clothes.
I loved these little chairs. They were perfect to keep my three entertained and safe. They could see what was going on, see what I was up to, and each other ! They come with little vibrations now, mine didn’t have that, but if they moved or wriggled, it made the little chair bounce about ! With a selection of toys in front of them, it helped them focus better and co-ordinate their movements.
There are so many baby monitors on the market, regular monitors that pick up sound and you can talk back, to individual cameras for each baby. We had a regular monitor that picked up sound, it was enough for me! I could hear when they needed me and to try and see all three at the same time would have been impossible. There could be a camera over a corner of the nursery, taking in the whole of the nursery but not much good to see in detail and theyre too expensive for one each, so a listening monitor was great for us.
…….. And What You Don’t Need
Ive got to agree with this one. I never had a wiper warmer, I think theyre filling a hole that was never there. Of course you don’t want to freeze your baby’s botty when you use them but theyre never that cold that its going to warrant having a wiper warmer ! It sounds like a good idea but to be perfectly honest, the wipes that are impregnated with baby lotion rather than an alcohol type wipe, are never that cold ! The ambient room temperature will be enough to warm the wipes, no need for further heating !
If you go with my earlier suggestion, and use cloth wipes, they definitely do not need warming. They dont have alcohols/preservatives etc on them and are not cold.
Diaper Disposal System
I used a diaper disposal system for my disposable nappies… It was not a success… I thought it would be a great idea becauseI wouldn’t have to use diaper bags and could empty it periodically but it became an annoyance. I hate emptying the rubbish and this was just as bad, I would try to push in more than was supposed to fit, then when its emptied, there are nappies that have been in there for several days, it was quite a stink even though they were enclosed in perfumed plastic bags. When I had my single baby 10 years later, I didnt bother with one of these, but simply got the diaper bags and disposed of it there and then. The cassettes to refill are expensive and really not a time saver.
The individual diaper bags are biodegradable, so not adding to the plastic mountain and you can get biodegradable disposable diapers which if you really cant bear washable, maybe theyre worth considering? If you want to have a look at them, follow the link. Plop the poop down the loo and the rest is compostable !
Baby Shoes/ Socks
These have got to be the most ridiculous invention ever…. Socks and shoes dont stay on, you drop them all over the house, socks get lost in the wash, you end up with several single socks and no pairs ! Babies wriggle about so much that they cannot stay on. Shoes are not required until needed for walking, they are uncomfortable, expensive and fall off at the most inopportune moments. Keeping babies feet warm is an easy task without the use of socks or shoes. Tights are very good, baby grows with feet in, blankets- all work perfectly well ! So much time and money wasted on several pairs of socks and shoes, they grow so fast anyway and really dont need them.
Small Baby Bottles
I can see that small baby bottles might not make a lot of sense for a singleton because theyre likely to be a reasonable sizewhen born and so drink maybe 4 oz right from the start, but for twins and triplets, I actually found them to be useful…. They started off with 2 1/2 oz and when trying to feed three using large bottles was not going to work, but the smaller bottles were lighter to manage. I could hold two at a time, without aching arms and baby 3 either was asleep or I could prop a little bottle and feed all three. Maybe a waste of money for singletons, but not for me.
Traditional High Chairs
Thank god I didn’t get a regular highchair ! They take up a huge amount of space, are useless except for the one thing they are used for, and I don’t know about you but I needed all the baby paraphernalia to work hard for me, high chairs included…. so I had a pine high/low chair that turned into a chair and table ! This was perfect when they were babies and I needed the high chair mode, butwhen they were toddlers I could swap it round to a low chair and table for them ! They used the tables for eating and playing… I could push them into a group for joint play or separate when they were eating ! Great ! And when I was out and about, I carried with me a couple of portable high chairs. I usually found when we were out that getting 3 high chairs around a cafe or restaurant table was impossible but with these portable high chairs that attached to the table, we had tons of space !
Theyre so cute ! Three in a row…all dressed up and ready to go out.. but really this was for me, not them. As infants, I think we used them once. It was such a waste of money but they were wrapped in jackets and a blanket in the stroller or car seat, and grew too fast that they outgrew them too soon… Toddler snowsuits are a great idea, when theyre running around, with little wellie boots on but as infants, just not practical.
I got three moses baskets for downstairs during the day.. pretty white broidrie anglaise edging. They were so cute…. But totally not needed. I had bassinets in my stroller. They spent more time in the there than they did in the moses baskets. I had always wanted moses baskets and I got them but really…what a waste of money…