Do they have to? I tried not to dress my triplets alike, well of course one is a boy! But the girls, when they were small I would try to find things that were similar, maybe a style I liked in two different colours. It was of course very difficult when I would find a really cute outfit and there wasn’t an alternatively cute for the other girl, so on very few occasions they were dressed alike.
The reason I ask is because Roger Federer’s two sets of twins were at Wimbledon yesterday watching their dad and the set of girls were dressed identically and the set of boys were dressed identically. This may not seem particularly important when theyre only 7 yrs and 2 yrs respectively but as time goes on it is important that they feel their own identity which is tough enough for a single child but even tougher for a twin or triplet. Have a read of the BBC report.
My triplets didn’t have too many problems with identity because I was aware of this being a problem early on and encouraged them to do different sports/after school clubs etc and also dressed them as differently as possible. Its funny but on some photographs, whilst my triplets were non identical and one was a boy, there are a few photos that they all look extremely similar ! This photo here, is one such photo. When I saw it, it took me a few minutes to work out who was who ! Scary !
Here is a cute photo when they were 2 years old. We had been to the county show and there was a stall there selling reversible dresses, so I was able to find two really cute dresses, same style but different colours. Perfect !
They were always very different characters and we were keen to encourage individuality. Its awesome to have brothers and sisters but not if you lose who you are.
My other reason for dressing them differently was that it was less likely to draw attention to them when we were out and about. We frequently got stopped and stared at and total strangers asking questions about them which eventually started to annoy me. So by dressing them differently it was less likely that they would be associated together and so less attention.
One of my triplets teachers at school once told me that when something happened to any one of them at school, a fall in the yard, or another kid picking on them, the other two would pop up like rabbits out of a rabbit hole to sort things out ! I thought that whilst this isn’t really engendering individuality, the closeness was amazing in children so young. They are older now but still just as close, they do miss each other if theyre away doing their own thing and care tremendously about how the others are.
However you do it, they are twins or triplets, they were born at the same time but they are individuals and have their own needs, regardless of being a twin or triplet. Dressing them differently I felt was important to encourage them and express to them that they are individuals and important as an individual and that whilst they do have brother and sisters, who are the same age, they are still their own person. Fortunately for me, they all had different subjects at school that they were good at, so there wasn’t any competition academically and they could assert their individuality !
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