Ok so you are expecting twins? or Triplets? This is the perfect article for you – The Twins and Triplets World Way to Surviving Newborns… Its true to say that your newborns won’t be any different to any other newborn but you will have two of them or three… I had three.. Mine arrived super early at 27 weeks but they were in hospital for 12 weeks and came home on their due date.
They weren’t newborns as such, but they had all same characteristics as newborns – waking every 2-3 hours – I thought being in NICU all this time they would have adjusted to the night/day thing, but no….☹️
So The Twins and Triplets World Way to Survive Triplets is bourne from personal experience!
Don’t underestimate the importance of having evening meals sorted out for at least the first couple of months or so… You will really appreciate a meal in the evening after a solid day of baby caring. If you’re super woman you can get those meals into the freezer before the babies arrive… I should have done more whilst they were in NICU but I had no concept of how shattered I would feel at the end of a day. My three were my first, so nothing to compare it with !
If you’re not a kitchen queen, then get a rota going with family and friends, bring a meal a week? My friends were great at bringing round a meal when they visited, popped it into the freezer – a lasagne, fish pie, cottage pie, even a couple of pizzas. Enough for hubby and I. He was a junior doctor at the time and was super tired when he got home from work.
If you live away from family/friends, look into a meal delivery service. There are some that will deliver ready made meals that you simply reheat – I’m not meaning those ones from the supermarket but ones that are delivered direct to your door… Expensive you probably think, some are, but once a week it would make a treat to look forward to..
There are others that will deliver meals to cook within 30 minutes and these suppliers will deliver everything you need in a neat box. Whilst it’s not just a reheat, which has its positives, but also negatives in preservatives etc the quick prep meals are super tasty and feel like you’re having a special meal without the hassle of going out – Hello Fresh offer this both in the UK and USA.
I was reluctant before my triplets were born to accept the fact that I would need help. I wanted to be responsible for the experiences they had and to be perfectly honest I was frequently frustrated and I admit… downright cross about some things that happened… usually one of my relatives would take it upon themselves to decide something about one of them that they had no right to do… such as picking them up out of their crib when they were asleep instead of leaving them as I had asked, just because they wanted to cuddle them. They thought they were cute…😡 …. It made me cross and even more inadequate… I have to be honest looking back on it, those issues were not important, the babies were safe, well cared for but I think I was just being unrealistic about how tired we would all be and that I couldn’t feel in control all the time.
Accept help, but work it so that it is when you need it. Get help to come for lunchtime… help feed, then take the twins/triplets out for a long walk in the afternoon so you can get some sleep. Don’t think, ooh…. Ill get the washing on or I’ll empty the dishwasher..Get sleep ! Surviving the newborn stage is all about getting enough sleep…. and the washing will wait.
This was me and hubby… I look at this photo and remember how dog tired we were… We could barely keep our eyes open and I remember going to see the optician to get my eyes tested as I thought I needed glasses… only to be told that there was nothing wrong with my eyes, I was just TIRED !
Night Time Support
This is a tricky one…. The only way we survived the nights as my hubby was a junior doctor at the time and had on calls to do, was with family coming to help, usually my mom who lived over 500 miles away, as and when she could due to her work, or paying for a night nurse from the hospital every so often.. Occasionally my cousin might come, which was excellent. So we managed with various support through the first 3 months.
If you have any family or friends offer to come for a night, snap their hands off ! And if they want to come in 2’s, all the better… the ideal is that you get a nights sleep to keep on coping. We managed, despite my hubby being away some nights, somehow we got though it. I even remember one of my sister in laws mothers coming a few times over a period of a c0uple of months to do a night… One night doesn’t upset anyones equilibrium, they can go home afterwards but for you, its a godsend, so start signing friends and relatives up for a night or two…
Once you get past the first few months of newborn life and move into the baby stage… hoping that night feed will drop and you’ll get a few more uninterrupted hours of sleep, you might want to think about reading my Ebook on Baby Sleeping…. It is a free download when you subscribe to my website… It talks you through the process to get your twins/triplets missing that night feed and giving you a solid 6 hours sleep.
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Unlike me who thought I could be super mom, when clearly I wasnt, especially as I had to have a c section, be realistic ! With the best will in the world you cannot manage two or three newborns single handed. These celeb moms that two weeks after having their babies, theyre back into their skinny jeans and thigh high boots… This wasn’t me. There is so much pressure on new moms to be everything, and have everything. Its way too much pressure… Especially if you have two or three babies. Breastfeeding – you may want to try at least to breast feed once a day ( I couldn’t as mine were in NICU) and coupled with the long nights, you have to take care of yourself too. So trying to fit the mould set by those celebrities that have day nannies and night nannies is not realistic.
There is plenty of time over the next few months for super mom to emerge. Be kind to yourself. Hormones will be raging along with the severe tiredness, don’t pile on extra stress by trying to be all things. You have a lifetime with your babies, a few months caring for them and yourself without the outside pressures of society is not too much. With all the rushing about you will do for your multiples, you will start getting back into shape without realising it. Don’t listen to other moms, they over-exaggerate and make you feel like a bad mother….
So try to maintain perspective after your twins or triplets arrive. I think if they hadn’t been my first, I would have been more realistic and appreciated that life doesn’t carry on the same as before… twins or triplets don’t slot into life like nothing has happened, they create a whirlwind of chaos that is both relentless and joyful!